Woman Sparks Debate After ‘Embarrassing’ a Family Member by Bringing Her Own Vegan Food to Barbecue
- - - Woman Sparks Debate After ‘Embarrassing’ a Family Member by Bringing Her Own Vegan Food to Barbecue
Sabrina WeissJuly 10, 2025 at 5:53 PM
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People grilling on a barbecue
A woman turned to a Reddit forum for opinions on how she handled a family barbecue blowout
The 25-year-old alleges that she was called "rude" after she brought her vegan meal to a family barbecue that only had salad as a plant-based option
Commenters wrote that they would have done the same as the original poster and likened the situation to accommodating people with food allergies
A family barbecue got heated over one person’s dietary restrictions.
On Wednesday, July 9, Reddit user @Dead_Huntsman posted about the plant-based drama on the popular forum "Am I the A------."
The 25-year-old poster claimed to have been vegan for three years and that her family was aware of this. Ahead of the family get-together, she even asked her uncle if there would be plant-based options at his barbecue and he replied that there would be salad.
In an attempt to not “make a fuss,” she brought veggie burgers and side dishes with enough for others to try. She wrote that she cooked the patties herself on an empty part of the grill.
The Reddit user then said that her Aunt later told her that she was “rude” for bringing her own food and “made it seem like I was to good for everyone else’s cooking.” The aunt supposedly told her she “had Embarrassed my uncle by acting like his food wasn’t good enough,” according to the post.
The poster explained that she thought she was being polite by bringing and offering to share her own food and that it came down to her not wanting to feel left out of the festivities. Despite her claims, her family continued to give her the cold shoulder.
Most commenters support the original poster, writing that the aunt and uncle are the rude people in this situation.
“What’s really offensive is making guests feel unwelcome by only making foods they can’t or won’t eat,” one person wrote, with others relating the Redditor's experience to people with food allergies.
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One Redditor shared her own hosting tips. “I'll add that there are some dietary restrictions you may be better off not trying to accommodate because you could inadvertently make someone sick by being too confident in your ability to keep them safe,” the person wrote. “So yeah, I try to always ask people if I can cook/buy them something special or if they'd rather bring their own.”
Other people with dietary restrictions commented on their reasoning for bringing their own food to functions. “I always try to bring my own food at cookouts. It’s easier for me, and doesn’t interfere with other people’s enjoyment,” someone wrote.
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